Out of control

This past week I spent four solid days with an incredibly smart French man who owns a company that designs custom computer programs to improve business processes, because he is currently helping my company build just such a thing, and I'm coordinating this with him. (I stay vague when setting the scene because my job doesn't make good reading or conversation.) It was quickly evident that he is the most direct and outspoken person I've met, which is a fantastic quality and an incredibly irritating one in turn, depending on your frame of mind at the time. Unexpectedly, through the course of our conversation on day 4, I mentioned my paralyzing fear when flying, and he suggested that I might have an issue with being out of control. It sounds so cliche, and I've thought of this explanation before, but somehow when he suggested it, it really clicked in my brain. And as I kept reflecting more, I think that a deep fear of getting myself into situations where I don't control my own circumstances and my destiny isn't clear explains a lot about how I live my life. When I think about it rationally, I know I control very little in the scheme of things, but rationalizing has never helped me banish fear. I'm not happy with this characteristic of myself...and I'm not sure what to do about it...but it's on my mind and I'm hoping that now that I am aware, I can change the way I make my decisions.